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RECONNECT WITH YOUR PARTNER
Do You Feel Disconnected in Your Relationship?
- Are you miserable from all of the fighting but don’t know how to reconnect?
- Are you satisfied with the intimacy in your relationship, or do you feel like roommates?
- Are you new parents with no energy left over for each other?
- Has there been infidelity in your relationship that you can’t get over even though you are trying to forgive?
- Do you feel like your partner doesn’t understand the stress you bring home from work?
- Is your husband irritable all of the time making you unsure if he even likes you anymore?
- Do you want to talk, but he just wants to have sex?
- You sometimes feel you have to take care of your partner’s past emotional trauma.
- It feels like you to fix past emotional and physical injuries- things that happened before you know your partner.
It can feel overwhelming and lonely to feel disconnected from your partner. You may not know how to reconnect or if you even want to try. You might feel hopeless as you look around at other couples who seem to have great relationships and wonder what’s wrong with your relationship. You wonder where the spark, joy, and connection went and if it’s possible to get it back.
Most Couples Struggle at Times
Most couples go through challenges in their relationship…. Each partner brings their own experiences and traumas to the collective table which can bring additional challenges. Things can be fine for days on end and then your partner is upset, having a hard time calming down, or is angry and snapping and you don’t know why. What happened? Everything was fine, why is there a problem now? Past traumatic experiences can have an impact on how you communicate and how your partner perceives your communication. Relationship are not easy, and it is not uncommon to develop unhealthy patterns of communication that can steer the ship off course. Feelings of disconnect can soon build into a chasm between you where you don’t know if it is possible to repair the distance.
The good news is that you can stop the fighting and move forward in your relationship in a healthier way. With the help of a compassionate and experienced therapist, you can learn to reconnect and honestly evaluate your relationship in a safe space rather than just surviving each day.
Couples Counseling Can Save Your Relationship
Feeling disconnected is a common but often unspoken experience for couples. Living with the constant stress of relationship conflict is draining and unhealthy. We excel at helping unhappy and disconnected couples reconnect, get unstuck, fight less, improve communication, and learn to function as a supportive team.
In our sessions, we’ll address your relationship and goals with empathy, compassion, and acceptance to help you both grow and reconnect with each other and yourselves. We use Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) as a roadmap to guide couples to repair and connect. EFT helps to examine and change the dance occurring within and between the members of a couple.
Research has shown that 70-75% of couples in EFT therapy move from distress to recovery and approximately 90% show significant improvements.
Our goal is to make counseling a safe and supportive atmosphere. We acknowledge and honor the courage it takes to show yourself to someone you just met, and our goal is to help you grow and change to be your best self in your relationship and life.
Some Concerns You May Have About Therapy
- Our finances are tight, how can we afford therapy?
We understand that therapy is a financial investment, but your relationship is worth it. We are on some insurance panels, and we offer some reduced fee appointments to make therapy more accessible and affordable.
- I am embarrassed and don’t want anyone to know how bad things are.
As humans in relationship, we all struggle and falter at times. Talking to an unbiased person and revealing the whole picture is the first step to getting help. All couples face challenges, and there is no shame in being brave enough to get help.
- A therapist will tell us to get divorced.
Therapists should not tell people what to do. A therapist’s job is to help you evaluate your relationship and discover your own needs and desires so that you can make the decisions that are right for you. As therapists trained in couples therapy, we know healthy relationships can be the key to a healthy life.
- My partner refuses to go to a therapist.
Come by yourself. It is not unusual for one member of a couple to refuse couples counseling. You will benefit from having a safe place to discuss your relationship which can bring healing and affect change within your relationship.
Things Will Get Better
In our relationships, we are all vulnerable.
Paradoxically, when we embrace that vulnerability, we open ourselves to the real juice of life.
We acknowledge the courage it takes to show yourself to someone you just met. Our goal is to make counseling a safe and supportive atmosphere where you feel heard and understood. If you are struggling, we are here to help.